tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4991158064027223654.post5055215632317590578..comments2023-06-30T03:41:14.329-07:00Comments on Recovering from a life not lived: Advice.....PLEASE!An Open Hearthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01581361716412644419noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4991158064027223654.post-91517445501764248232010-04-19T04:25:40.702-07:002010-04-19T04:25:40.702-07:00Everyone above me has listed great options, howeve...Everyone above me has listed great options, however, speaking as an older teenager (fresh out of high school drama) myself, I feel as though I may have a different approach.<br /><br />Everyone experiences bullying in their lifetime and despite it being horrible and incredibly hurtful, it is also something that does in fact make us stronger. I know I know this isn't really helpful for what strwbrykisshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17093211062171255321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4991158064027223654.post-28625202956308120082010-04-19T04:17:57.855-07:002010-04-19T04:17:57.855-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.strwbrykisshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17093211062171255321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4991158064027223654.post-58886304595828855752010-04-18T20:10:02.923-07:002010-04-18T20:10:02.923-07:00My first reaction is that it is time for a change ...My first reaction is that it is time for a change in her environment, even if she doesn't want it. And it sounds like you, Aunt Shannon, are going to have to help to make it happen.<br /><br />Whether you take day trips, weekend adventures or just afternoon/evening hours together, it is time. It doesn't all have to be Disneyland, either. Go volunteer at a soup kitchen. She might not Cyndyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01365918364420231384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4991158064027223654.post-33195534143055127962010-04-18T08:55:48.064-07:002010-04-18T08:55:48.064-07:00Wow - you're in a hard situation. I do think y...Wow - you're in a hard situation. I do think your niece needs attention from her Dad. Can you talk to him about that?<br /><br />Also, both Brian and Dayne gave you great advice. <br /><br />Talk about consequences. Be there for her.Pathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17756564685282866773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4991158064027223654.post-83439751249897079322010-04-18T07:24:51.709-07:002010-04-18T07:24:51.709-07:00The hardest part about parenting (or "aunting...The hardest part about parenting (or "aunting") is talking to your child, laying out how you feel about things, sharing your experience, offering guidance, and then stepping back and letting them make their own mistakes. What's critical is being there, non-judgementally, to support them when they stumble. That's the best gift you can give them.http://howtobecomeacatladywithoutthecats.blogspot.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02888838201074339916noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4991158064027223654.post-54699784028816525802010-04-18T03:24:09.424-07:002010-04-18T03:24:09.424-07:00hey there. dayne said some good things there...i w...hey there. dayne said some good things there...i will add, she's you niece, you have a window a mom doesn't have. she doesn't need another mom. do something fun with her, buid that relationship back, be there when she stumbles, hear her side, share yours and let her decide.Brian Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00722940075884718007noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4991158064027223654.post-31772626000388187552010-04-17T23:09:15.965-07:002010-04-17T23:09:15.965-07:00This is a topic I talk to my teenage students with...This is a topic I talk to my teenage students with ALL THE TIME AT NAUSEAM!<br /><br />Teenage girls and drama are as much a part of their lives as makeup and shoes. Sure, some manage to dodge some of it... but it always seems a way to find them once in awhile. Sounds like your niece is more than "once in awhile."<br /><br />What I've learned, is that we can't continue to Dayne Gingrichhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00670846587449384876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4991158064027223654.post-12797456115087589202010-04-17T20:29:14.735-07:002010-04-17T20:29:14.735-07:00This issue scares me. Have you read Odd Girl Out ...This issue scares me. Have you read Odd Girl Out by Rachel Simmons?Roberthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00243748655669695310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4991158064027223654.post-7021545245577788182010-04-17T20:11:17.017-07:002010-04-17T20:11:17.017-07:00I believe part of the answer is what you have alre...I believe part of the answer is what you have already said, her dad ignores her. She may use bullying and drama because she feels she has to be strong and independent while inside she wants her dad to notice her, whether it is in a postive way or negatively. Teenagers really do want attention and even rules. Mine sure did. They thanked us when they got older. Both of us did not ignore a thing Delenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05267264823175290041noreply@blogger.com